I am betting that if you are reading this post, you are frustrated at the election 2016 cycle this year. I have never seen it like this before and I am appalled and anxious over the rhetoric and name-calling and the crazy media focus on every single inuendo. That’s not the world I am used to living in and like most people, I was not brought up to do that- or tolerate it. The ability of social media to amplify this anxiety and frustration has gotten to the point that rational people are engaging in irrational conduct.
It makes our day-to-day lives frustrating and distressing. How are YOU handling this stress? Just because the electiooneering is over and your vote has been cast doesn’t mean the stress and anger disappear in a poof of smoke. You have to actively deal with facing it and dealing with it for it to fade into the wood-work. If you don’t, that stress and anger will sit in the background of your mind- waiting for a moment that’s ripe for it to explode.
Lucky for you and me, I was offered this guest blog post from Dr. Sanam Hafeez about how to reduce this post-election anxiety, stress and anger. She has smart tips and ideas. I appreciate that this post is here “right now” because it’s something worth reading,.
Regardless of who you voted for in the 2016 Presidential election, there is one thing we all can agree on. It was stressful! For the past year people have been heated on social media, blocking and “un-friending” those on “the other side.” Families have been arguing. Spouses have been at odds. Now that the election is over, one side will feel the stress associated with the loss. We spoke with Dr. Sanam Hafeez, NYC based licensed clinical psychologist, teaching faculty member at the prestigious Columbia University Teacher’s College and the founder and Clinical Director of Comprehensive Consultation Psychological Services, who shares the signs of Post Election Stress Disorder and what to do about it.
1. Your stomach is in knots!
According to Dr. Hafeez, stressing out about the future of our country can certainly manifest in physical discomfort. When you ruminate about the worst-case scenario it can lead to stomach tension, nausea and lack of appetite. She advises to take a break from news coverage and discussing the election results.
“You want to be informed but YOU want to be in control of the news you are seeking out. Select one media outlet that you want to get your news from. Check in the morning and then focus on what you have to do that day.”
2. You can’t focus!
Your mind wanders and you keep worrying about the next 4 years of your life. These wandering thoughts lead to a lack of focus. Dr. Hafeez explains that when we are fixated on a thought and are in a state of worry, it is difficult to give full attention to anything else. Her advice:
“go for a 30-minute walk, exercise, meditate by lying still focusing on your breath, color in a coloring book or get a ball and have a catch. You want to choose tasks that are repetitive, pleasurable, calming and don’t require a lot of focus.”
3. You can’t sleep!
You’re tossing and turning and can’t seem to get to that deep level of sleep. “This is a true sign of anxiety and stress,” flags Dr. Hafeez. Sleep is when our bodies turn over cells, fight off illness and are fully relaxed. When stress disturbs sleep for a prolonged period of time, it can lead to a slew of illnesses including, depression and mental illness, heart disease, kidney disease and diabetes.
“Avoid watching the news before bed as it can evoke worry and negative thoughts. Get into the practice of writing down all the things you appreciated that day so you calm down and drift off on a positive note.”
4. You’re snippy with everyone!
You feel on edge and angry. Anything can set you off. Your cell phone doesn’t work and you throw it across the room. You’re screaming in traffic. You’re irritable at work and prefer the door to your office closed so you can avoid everyone. Dr. Hafeez explains that it is normal to have a short fuse when stressed. Unfortunately the people we love the most get the fallout from our stress.
“Put yourself in a ‘time out.’ Notice what is setting you off and avoid it for a day or two. Book a spa massage, take a long bath, pamper yourself, cash in on some well needed ‘me time.’ Within hours your mood will shift, “offers Dr. Hafeez.
5. You’re not in the mood for love.
When stressed it’s common for sexual desire to wane. When your mind is on other things the last thing you want to do is get romantic. According to Dr. Hafeez, starting off with sensual touch is calming.
“Simply being in the bed holding hands breathing for 2 minutes can work wonders. Don’t rule out sex, ease into it. Avoiding sex only adds another thing to be stressed about and sex is a stress reliever. You need those “feel good” brain chemicals to beat the stress,” she reminds us.
So try not to be bummed out and stressed out if your candidate didn’t nab the presidency. Things could be far worse. YOU could be President of the United States. Now THAT is something to be stressed about.
About the doctor:
Dr. Sanam Hafeez PsyD is a New York City-based licensed clinical psychologist; teaching faculty member at the prestigious Columbia University Teacher’s College; and the founder and Clinical Director of Comprehensive Consultation Psychological Services, P.C. a neuropsychological, developmental and educational center in Manhattan and Queens.
Dr. Hafeez masterfully applies her years of experience connecting psychological implications to address some of tje most common issues (currently) such as body image, social media addiction, relationships, workplace stress, parenting and psychopathology (bipolar, schizophrenia, depression, anxiety, etc.). In addition, Dr. Hafeez works with individuals who suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), learning disabilities, attention and memory problems, and abuse. Dr. Hafeez often shares her credible expertise to various news outlets in New York City and frequently appears on CNN and The Doctors.
Website: www.comprehendthemind.com
Twitter: @Comprehend_mind
Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ComprehendtheMind
Thanks to Dr. Hafeez for this excellent article on dealing with election stress. Everyone I know has been talking about it. I have seen friends and colleagues go off the deep end on both sides of the aisle. It’s good to know how a professional like Dr. Hafeez suggests we deal with it.
Stevie Wilson,
LA-Story.com
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