Pastor Scott LaPierre Has Some Great Ideas to Improve Your Marriage! He Uses the Word of God!

 If you are a Christian and want to improve your marriage,
You should check out Pastor Scott LaPierre!
Pastor Scott has some very good ideas …and he uses the  “word of God” to make his point!

Scott LaPierre has written this article about marriage and how his religious views and practices have really directed his life and that of his entire family!

Pastor Scott LaPierre!

I have been the senior pastor of Woodland Christian church since 2010. My wife, Katie, and I grew up together in the
small town of McArthur in the mountains of northern California. As of 2021, we have nine children.

Tell us a little about Scott LaPierre?

Katie is my best friend. We grew up together in McArthur, California, and went to high school together. Neither of us were Christians at the time.

Ten years after graduation, Katie and I reconnected. We found out the other had become a Christian, and soon we started talking regularly.
At the time Katie was in our hometown while I was teaching in Lemoore, CA. Katie moved to be near me, living with our pre-marital counselors,
Pat and Kathy Mundy, until we got married in 2005. I couldn’t ask for a better wife to serve alongside me in ministry.

What influenced your writing?

At the beginning of Your Marriage God’s Way, I write, “First, and of greatest importance, I am not asking you to trust me.
Rather, I am inviting you to trust what God says in the Bible.”
This book is not a collection of my thoughts about marriage. God is the author of marriage. He designed the roles and responsibilities for husbands
and wives. He knows what couples need so they can experience healthy, joyful, Christ-centered relationships and He provided the instructions in
His Word. My desire is to present that guide clearly and biblically in Your Marriage God’s Way I believe this communicates that the Bible is
my greatest influence. I also regularly use commentaries from John MacArthur and Warren Wiersbe.
These wonderful godly men have also greatly influenced me.

Which authors do you like to read?

John MacArthur and Warren Wiersbe are my favorite authors and Bible commentators.

Other than the Bible, which we all can agree is a must-read, what books have affected your life?
Knowing God by J.I. Packer and Charismatic Chaos by John MacArthur.

Why did you write Your Marriage God’s Way?

I wrote Your Marriage God’s Way because I am passionate about this area of Scripture and life. God designed the family as the primary
unit for every other segment in society, including the church. And marriage is the heart of the family. As a marriage disintegrates, the family
disintegrates. As families disintegrate, churches disintegrate. As churches disintegrate, society disintegrates. When marriages are strong,
however, families are strong. When families are strong, churches can be strong because strong churches are made up of strong families.
As a pastor, I have seen many struggling marriages, but I have also seen couples find the solutions to their problems in Scripture. The truth
of God’s Word has the power to heal and strengthen any marriage.

What was the background to Your Marriage God’s Way?

I’m not a typical author because I don’t sit down at the computer to write. Instead, I sit down at the computer to study God’s Word and
prepare sermons and my books develop from that material. Let me elaborate. There might be some space between these two extremes,
but for simplicity’s sake, let’s say pastors take two approaches with their sermons:

–Abbreviated notes of a few hundred words. Phrases and keywords are meant to remind them what to say. This isn’t to say these pastors
don’t study. I’m sure they do. But they don’t write out most of what they plan to say.

–Transcripts with thousands of words. This is me. I write out my entire sermon and go over it with my wife Thursday nights. A wonderful
family in our church sends over some kids to watch our kids. We go over the sermon again Saturday morning. I wake up early on Sunday to
pray and look over my notes again. Each time I go over my notes, I’m refining and polishing them.

My books come from my sermon transcripts, which take twenty-to-thirty hours of work each week. This means each book contains hundreds
of hours of study in God’s Word.

What do you hope readers will gain from Your Marriage God’s Way?

I believe when couples read this book together, it will strengthen their relationships with each other, and most importantly with Christ.
Because the marriage relationship is a picture of Christ and His relationship to the church, it is one of the greatest evangelistic tools
believers have. Godly marriages have the potential to reveal Christ to an unbelieving world; therefore, I also hope the book helps people
become more evangelistic. As a husband, I have experienced firsthand the blessings that come from obeying God’s Word and the negative
consequences that come with disobedience. I hope husbands and wives come to learn what God says about marriage and experience these
blessings themselves.

I poured my heart into Your Marriage God’s Way, and I pray it strengthens your marriage and relationship with Christ! If you would like
to learn more about me, or I can pray for you in any way, please feel free to reach out to me.

Would you give us an excerpt of Your Marriage God’s Way?

Yes, here you go…

A Husband Gets the Wife He Prepares for Himself

Ephesians 5:27 continues the description of Christ sanctifying and cleansing the church: He does this so “that He might present her to
Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.” There
is a tremendous truth contained in these words. Christ does what He does in verse 26 —sanctifying and cleansing the church—so that
He can obtain for Himself the glorious church (or bride) described in verse 27: one that has no spot or wrinkle, but is holy and without
blemish. The ESV Bible puts it this way: “So that He might present the church to Himself in splendor.” Here is the simplest way to sum
it all up: Christ gets the church He  prepares for Himself.

Again, this is a picture for husbands and wives. What is the apostle Paul implying by this truth? Just as Jesus gets the church He
prepares for Himself,  a husband generally gets the wife he prepares for himself. Wives respond well to love, holiness, and obedience
to God’s Word. When a husband treats his wife forgivingly, lovingly, and tenderly, he will generally receive a more forgiving, loving,
and tender wife. When a husband treats his wife unforgivingly, unlovingly, and harshly, he will generally find himself with a wife who
is less forgiving, loving, and tender. Rather than be cruel or harsh toward their wives, some husbands tend to be apathetic or indifferent.
They take no interest in their wives. They do not invest in them or even become annoyed with them. We will discuss this more when we
look at 1 Peter 3 in chapters 16 through 19 in this book, but for now, we should note that 1 Peter 3:7 commands husbands to
“dwell with [their wives] with understanding.” Husbands must try to know and understand their wives. This is what enables wives to
blossom and grow. When husbands fail to show interest in their wives, they end up with cold, bitter, frustrated wives.

Earlier we learned about a husband’s responsibility regarding his wife’s sanctification. Another way to look at this is that husbands are
responsible for the wives they get for themselves! It is a simple equation. If a husband is helping his wife with her sanctification and
spiritual cleansing, he is going to get a sanctified and spiritually cleansed wife. So aside from the fact that God commands a husband
to take his wife to church, read the Word with her, pray with her, and help her grow spiritually, another great reason for him to do so
is that he will receive a more spiritually mature wife. What kind of qualities will be produced as a result? Galatians 5:22-23 gives the
answer: “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.”

The Scott LaPierre family!

How do you successfully practice work-life balance?

Honestly, I struggle in this area and the way I am trying to improve is by letting my wife tell me when I am working too much, and
I need to make more time for her and the children. If I don’t do this, I could work from the time I get up to the time I go to bed and
neglect my family. I am ashamed to say that, but it is true. I appreciate my wife for being honest with me and helping me grow in this area.

What was the best piece of relationship advice you were given?

Read books about marriage and attend marriage conferences. My advice to couples would be the same, especially if the couple is
thinking about getting married. Also, seek counsel from their parents and other mature believers who they trust.

What practical things should couples be prepared for in marriage?

They should be prepared for the trials and struggles that will come. Challenges come in different forms—conflict between the husband
and wife, difficulties with children, financial issues, or health problems. A strong marriage allows two people to weather these storms.

What are some ways to strengthen a marriage?

Here are some sure-fire ways:
 Focus on Christ and living for Him.
 Spend time together engaging in activities.
 Share your hearts and dreams with each other.
 Strive to serve each other and put your spouse ahead of yourself.
 Pray and read the Bible together.
 Set boundaries that protect your marriage.
 Pursue physical intimacy.
 Remember what Christ has done for you so that you are more likely to forgive and be gracious toward your
spouse. Bitterness and resentment can ruin marriages.

How important is a physical connection in a marriage?

It is very important. God has an entire book of the Bible, the Song of Solomon, committed to the physical side of the relationship.
In 1 Corinthians 7, God commands husbands and wives to recognize their bodies belong to their spouses and they should strive to please each other.

What is the best way to deal with conflict in a relationship?

Strive to focus on your own weaknesses and shortcomings versus your spouse’s. Keep a short account. Try to listen to what the other
person is saying versus just waiting for an opportunity to talk. Most importantly, when you recognize you have done something wrong say,
“I am sorry for…will you please forgive me?” Do not include the word “but” as it destroys apologies.

What kinds of boundaries protect a marriage?

There must be boundaries in time and relationships. With time, husbands and wives must make time for each other. Remove other
things from your lives, whether work or hobbies that would prevent you from spending quality time together. With relationships,
husbands can be friends with other women, and wives can be friends with other men, but they shouldn’t be alone together,
engage in intimate conversations, or spend too much time together.

Notes from Scott LaPierre!
Where can readers learn more about you?

My website is best: https://www.scottlapierre.org/.
People can also visit my YouTube channel:
Want to buy his books?
You can see all my books here: Amazon

About Scott LaPierre

Scott LaPierre is the teaching pastor of Woodland Christian Church in Woodland, WA, an author, and a conference speaker.
He holds an MA in Biblical Studies from Liberty University. Scott and his wife, Katie, have nine children and they are passionate
homeschooling advocates. Scott is a former schoolteacher and Army officer.
Learn more about Pastor Scott at his website: www.scottlapierre.org.

LA-Story.com would like to thank Scott LaPierre for writing this article. Scott’s explanations are easy to understand and he
is very clear when talking about both the Bible and also how following the Bible affects people.
Scott, you are so patient and a real champ. You shared so much of yourself and your writing.
Both my audience and myself are grateful for your effort.

Wishing you a BLESSED Day!

Stevie Wilson,
LA-Story.com
If you have a question, you can email me at stevie.wilson@LA-Story.com

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